Go ahead and ask yourself. Matter fact, make it personal. “What would I do right now if I weren’t afraid?”
This question isn’t new under the sun, but it’s very thought provoking, isn’t it? What would I do right now if I weren’t afraid. Honestly, I would take action on every idea I had for this blog and my pending empire for women empowerment. I would go all in. I would talk about it with everyone. I wouldn’t hold anything back.
What about you? What would you do?
LET ME START WITH THIS
Your precious body isn’t built for a massive amount of fear. It can’t take it. I hope you don’t mind a little scripture and I hope you’ll stay with me.
“For God gave us a spirit not of fear, but of power and love and self-control.”
“Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
But even if you’re not here for that…
Haven’t you heard that fear kills? Living under a constant threat of fear has serious health consequences such as weakening the immune system, impaired ability to remember long-term memories, and difficulty with thinking and decision making (Impact of Fear and Anxiety).
Fear cripples. And it will continue to do so, until you put your foot down by quoting scripture like the ones above to yourself every time fear is holding you back or just by telling yourself that even though you’re afraid, you will do it anyway!
Make sure you remember…
Eliminating fear is not the goal. We have rational fears. Placing your hand on a burning, hot stove is a rational fear. Those kinds of fears are your allies; your friends.
“Other fears are taught.” Because of the negative stigma painted around certain things, people, or places, we are taught to fear it. For example, starting your own business. We are told that most people fail, therefore you will. We are also told that it’s extremely hard, that it’s only for certain people, that you will be exhausted all the time, and that it requires a lot of what we all crave… money! And while all those things may be true, they cause us to fear to create something of our own.
Jen Sincero, the insightful author of You are a Badass, would blame this on our subconscious mind.
“Our subconscious mind contains the blueprint for our lives. It’s running the show based on the unfiltered information it gathered when we were kids, otherwise known as our ‘beliefs.'”~Sincero
In other words, the moment we are born, our parents and society as a whole start to teach us, whether they realize it or not. They teach us by example that hair shouldn’t grow in certain places, college is important, your appearance is a major deciding factor for your value, etc. And even though we don’t recognize it, all of it enters our subconscious mind. When we get older, it’s there with us. Let me give you a personal example…
Jen gives a little test in her book.
What are the first five things that pop into your head when you think of money?
- If you’re wealthy, you’re always exhausted
- Once you’re wealthy, life is Easy
- It’s really hard, almost impossible, to be wealthy
- Only the “set apart” people are wealthy
- More money more problems
All fairly negative, confusing, and slightly contradicting thoughts, right? That’s because of the amount of money, or lack thereof, that circulated in my one-parent-with-five-kids household. While on the other hand, I observed my father’s freewill to dine out regularly, travel all over the world, and buy, so it appears, whatever he wanted.
So, for me…which will be my story?
That’s so exciting that I’ve realized that fear early in my life! Because once I become aware, I can start tackling those thoughts that strike fear in my heart and take actions that will lead to a better outcome for me financially.
Now you try it! It doesn’t just have to be money. It can be college, beauty, relationships, success, or anything you most struggle with. What are the first five things that pop in your head when you think of it? And then think about how your environment, society, or maybe your family led you to those “beliefs.”
You may find the root of a fear.
What are you afraid of?
Is it in your head or is it actually happening? If it’s actually happening, I have good news for you.
You’ll be able to deal with it. Not only because you’re the baddest in the game, but because science says so. Being afraid of something imaginary just causes you to worry and take little action, but when you’re actually faced with a fear provoking situation, a frenzy begins. Something inside of you clicks and all of sudden you jump into action without a second thought.
We react differently to real and imagined threats. Imagined threats cause paralysis. Being scared about all the bad things that may or may not happen in the future makes you worry a lot but take little action. You are stuck in a state of fear, overwhelmed but not knowing what to do. Real threats, on the other hand, cause frenzy. When the threat is imminent and identifiable, you jump to action immediately and without flinching. This is why people are much more likely to change their eating habits after a serious health scare (e.g., a heart attack) than after just reading statistics about the deleterious effect of a diet based on fried foods. If you want to mobilize your troops, you have to put yourself in danger. ~Theo Tsaousides
So when you’re overthinking your million dollar idea being rejected or laughed at, you’re just torturing yourself. Worrying about the future will only bring more worry. My advice to you? Present your big idea. Start working on your business idea. Stop worrying and start studying for that big test. Because when the time comes, you will be able handle it.
So what is it? What would you get up and do right now if you could wade through your fear?
Can I give you a few tips I found in the article, “How to Move Through Your Fear in 7 Steps?” Since “fear is for chumps” is shoved in our faces everywhere we look, we can feel less than or not good enough when we feel afraid. But this guy, Mike Robins, the author of the article, gives great tips that contradict that idea. Instead, he wants you to meet your fear with compassion.
I hope you don’t mind, but I put my own spin out it! Check out the actual article here.
- Own it: Own your fear. Admit to yourself that you’re afraid.
- Express it: Talk about your fear with people you love and who love you. You can write, sing, or even yell about how fearful you are. Whatever you do, just get it out.
- Feel it: Allow yourself to be fearful for a minute. Let yourself feel your feelings before you shut them down.
- Challenge it: When you feel your fear taking over, stop and ask yourself, What am I thinking right now? Chances are whatever your thinking is directly related to how you’re feeling. For instance, when I’m afraid, I start thinking “why did I think I could do this.” Then, I can challenge that thought to say, “because I’m passionate about it, because I’ve got to make a change and because I’ve got to live my best life.”
- Visualize the positive outcome: Imagine how proud you’ll be when you finally accomplish that goal. Keep that in mind while your living through your fear.
- Get going: Okay, it’s time to start working! Yes, your afraid. So what. Everyone is. Are you going to let the fact that you’re scared stop you? No, you’re not. So, do it afraid!
If you weren’t afraid, what would you get up and do right now? Leave it below in the comment section!